<p style=”text-align: center;”>My dtr was diagnosed with social anxiety and ocd – has been struggling already for the past 3-4 years but post COVID something has been the worst. She’s now facing high school, having difficulty forming and maintaining friendships, is addicted to social media and has become quite cruel to me (her mother). I feel like my life is spiralling out of control. She is manipulative and only thinks of herself. She has teenage tantrums. Won’t listen or take no for an answer. Kicks, hits and screams until I’m completely worn down and exhausted. I really don’t even like being around her anymore and I don’t know where to start. My husband has NPD/BPD traits and gives her what she wants. I want to leave them both but feel selfish for thinking this way but can’t keep going like this. I’ve gone for counselling take my dtr to therapy and we are getting no where. Tried marriage/family counselling as well. They only hear what they want to hear. Never get to the root of the issue. I’m always blamed for their issues yet I feel I’m the only one putting in the true effort. I feel like I’m going crazy</p>
Hi Kristine,
Sounds like a rough situation. I’m sorry you are having to deal with that. It does make it challenging when another family member gives in to those meltdowns. You only have control over yourself and can’t make them change – which can be very frustrating. There is no easy answer here. I would focus on taking care of yourself and your mental health. That is just as important as anything else.