I cannot get Mr. 12 to work on his anxiety or OCD. Refuses medication and therapy. He gets mean/rage like if anyone even brings it up. He’s not sleeping and wakes me up all night for reassurance. Everyone walks on eggshells to not upset him. How do I help him help himself?
Sorry, that sounds challenging! Unfortunately you can only do your part and can’t force him to help himself. Have you looked at Eli Lebowitz’s SPACE program? That might be the best option right now. It is a parent-only approach to pulling back accommodations and doesn’t require his involvement or buy in. As a member you get free access to the study guide I created on his program: https://atparentingcommunity.com/courses/space-program/